It will soon be like a game you play with your mind and this strategy is one of the easiest ones to help you forget someone completely. “If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. Give it time 5. That is the chance you take in believing in people. You don’t give second chances to people like that. Talking about hurt feelings is better than not talking about them. Sometimes you should just agree to disagree, while other times you need to stand your ground. When to Confront the One Who Wronged You If we are going to confront someone, we should not only do so with clear eyed, meticulous maturity, but we had also better be prepared to walk alongside that person, helping them to sew up the torn places in their lives.
I want to address the way it is to be in the position of being disrespected, because it’s often very uncomfortable and painful. Respect yourself enough that you want to feel good. Focus in on what God wants to do in your life. Microaggressions can be shocking and make you think you don't belong, says Levy. This kind of atmosphere will also help to keep your own emotions in check because once you let the floodgates go, you might be overcome with rage or frustration. As a result, it forever changed your relationship with this person. Each time you think of the person who has hurt you deeply, tell your mind “s/he is not that special and does not deserve any space in my head”.
A level 2 offense might be a painful word that was spoken to you by someone you loved and respected. Each one will help you heal and overcome the betrayal. As long as you focus on the person who has hurt you, they control you. If you keep expecting that person to come and apologize to you; you are allowing the very same entity who hurt you to hold you hostage. If your friend has hurt your feelings, tell her that you need to … But in the end, you’ll still go home carrying this wretched ball. If you decide to confront someone despite worries about repercussions, document it and have witnesses.
... anger, and hurt have subsided, of course. But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. You could be a lover, friend, parent, child, or borderline stranger. You may feel as if you’re being unreasonable, expecting someone else to change for you. In most instances when someone is yelling at you, your emotions are evoked and you feel the need to react. In the end, loving each other only teaches us about love, as a separate and beautiful entity that is unparalleled to anything else in this world. The truth is that there are times when it’s in your best interest to confront someone and get it off your chest.
If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. Reacting with yelling, criticism, or other negative responses will escalate the situation, you need to do everything in your power to reel in your thoughts and feelings so you can address the real problem, which is their yelling. It might be a hurtful breakup, a sharp word by an angry family member, or that … The more you think about the problem without acting, the more toxic it becomes. There is a saying that I always enjoyed, “When you wrestle with a pig, you both end up covered in shit. You could play catch with it by tossing it back and forth with someone you trust (express it). 5. You can't be an adult -- or teen -- alive today who hasn't experienced some kind of emotional pain. You don't want anyone who has hurt you in the past to control you in the present. Calmly address the yelling. But there’s a difference between differing political opinions and hurtful behavior. Before you confront someone who is manipulative, make a date to go to a local coffee shop or restaurant where they can’t get overly outrageous and freak out on you.
Instead of being consumed with the hurt, you focus on God the one who can heal the hurt, and give you the power to respond in a radically new way.
I remember seeing a young child run to his mother with a sad face, and as soon as he was in the arms of his mother he burst out crying, and eventually told her why he was so sad. When to Confront the One Who Wronged You If we are going to confront someone, we should not only do so with clear eyed, meticulous maturity, but we had also better be prepared to walk alongside that person, helping them to sew up the torn places in their lives. No one can hurt you unless you let them. Once you accept the pain and start grieving, you will find it is much easier to forgive the person. This topic has 23 replies, 18 voices, and was last updated 8 years, 6 months ago by OneOfMany. Being disrespected or worse, bullied, is very challenging. 4. If you are worried for your friend's well-being, let her know.